Are You Experiencing Dating Fatigue? — Here Are Three Things You Can Reflect on
#3. The importance of knowing what you want.
I get the sense that when you are new in the dating realm it’s pretty much like entering a store and just getting stuff you didn’t plan on getting merely because you did not know what you were looking for.
Being new in the dating world can be pretty confusing and frustrating. I didn’t know what was okay and what wasn’t. After all, we don’t get these lessons in school. What is even the criteria? — that’s a very personal question with a very personal answer.
When I started dating I evidently didn’t know what I wanted. I had this mindset of “go with the flow” and “whatever happens happens”.
Due to this mentality, I wasn’t going anywhere. Countless times I was, in fact, disheartened. There was so much I didn’t understand.
That being said, here are three things you can reflect on about the dating world. Let's keep it simple.
So first things first, be honest with yourself
If you are tired of dating or pretending to be okay with what you are not, then ask yourself — What are you looking for? Was is it that you want? Honestly, what is it? — Why are you even dating?
In my case, the truth is, I was going on dates just for the sake of doing it. I thought it was better to have something or whatever going on instead of nothing. I didn’t like saying to my friends —No, I am not seeing anyone right now cause I didn't want to sound like I was uninteresting.
Of course, that’s not the case anymore. Now, I am content to say that I am single, that I am not going on dates at the moment. PERIOD. I don’t give explanations, cause simply I don't have to.
Secondly: Know that dating won't fix your life
- Relationships do not fill voids.
- Love doesn’t solve all your problems.
- You can’t rely on others to make you happy, it's not their job.
During the lockdown and while being heartbroken I had my “epiphany or enlightenment momentum”. I no longer think of dating as…
