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5 Signs He Likes You for More than Sex
How to tell if he’s truly invested in you — or just enjoying the benefits.
Dating advice with Elliot Scott.
Many of Elliot's clients wonder if the guy they are seeing is in it long-term or just for fun. I’m about to lay out the clearest, most obvious signs that a guy wants a relationship — if you see these, there’s no second-guessing.
#1: A guy who truly likes you won’t put himself in a position to lose
you.
When a guy likes you and sees you long-term, you will get a whole new
level of depth, communication, and consistency you’re probably not
used to when it comes to men. Bible!!
Men who see you long-term are all about avoiding the risk of losing you.
— What does this mean?
As mentioned before I have many clients who are confused or unsure where their guy stands and I personally don’t know what’s so confusing.
Some men put themselves in risky situations where, if a woman didn’t like them or had doubts, they would lose her. But because she already has a bias in his favor (i.e., she really likes him), he doesn’t have to worry about losing her, even if his actions are unclear or inconsistent.
If a guy knows you like him enough to overlook certain things, he doesn’t feel pressure to be clear about his intentions. But a guy who truly wants a future with you won’t play that game — he’ll make sure you never feel unsure about where you stand.
For example, if your guy is doing any of the following, he doesn’t
see you long-term:
— Leaves you unsure where he stands.
— Isn’t consistent.
— Doesn’t take you off the market after 8 weeks.
— Horrible communicator and problem solver.
— Isn’t taking you out.
— Makes you feel he’s only after sex.
You have to look at it from an evolutionary perspective:
